I’d like to talk about one particular pattern I see among my clients, and people I know, with energy imbalances. Balance will be a major theme in 2011, so I’m sure this is the first of many posts relating to the subject.
When I do readings for people struggling with obesity, I almost always see an energy imbalance. Specifically, heavier people tend to be more expressive than receptive. That is, they are exerting more energy than they allow themselves to receive. I don’t mean calories here, when I say energy I’m talking about chi. Since few people are aware of their own energy, they have no idea they’re doing it. These people are “Exhalers.”
Try exhaling deeply, but inhaling with shallow breaths. It’s uncomfortable for most people, and impossible to sustain for too long. Indeed, breathing is the primary way we move energy in and out of our bodies, so what I say about breath is more than just metaphor –it’s literally true. Exhalers will actually take very shallow breaths. At times, they seem to exhale more deeply than they inhale. (I don’t know how that’s even physically possible, but extreme Exhalers do it).
Why obesity?
In the case of obesity, Exhalers tend to overeat as a subconscious attempt to make up for the chi they aren’t intaking. Some will also binge. So they deprive themselves of chi AND food for part of the day (or days), then really overeat. Their body requires energy, and they take it in whatever form they can get it –whether or not it’s really the kind of energy their bodies require. Some Exhalers I’ve met don’t eat much though, and their health is even worse! Not at first, but if they keep it up long enough it’s like their body just gives out and their health falls apart in a dozen different ways at once. From what I’ve seen, obesity is healthier than energetic starvation.
Are you an Exhaler?
What’s it look like when people output more energy than they take in? “Exhaling” energy usually takes the form of verbal or written expression. There are other ways to exert chi energy (martyrs, for example) but the Exhaler pattern applies most to those are imbalanced because they express more than they hear. The most extreme Exhalers talk non-stop and are poor listeners. Don’t be fooled if they can sit quietly while others speak –that doesn’t mean they’re really registering what’s being said. I don’t mean to offend any Exhalers out there, I truly say this with love, but you’d all be better listeners if you were more balanced.
Teachers, writers, and public speakers are commonly Exhalers because they express themselves for a living. For the same reason, inexperienced psychics and mediums are frequently exhalers too, until they learn to balance their energy flow. Geminis are often Exhalers. School teachers struggle the most because they spend they’re days being the one “expert” in the room. Hardly conducive to developing genuine listening skills! When they listen to their students, they’re usually thinking “what does this student need to learn from me?” rather than “what is this student teaching me?” Or better yet, not thinking at all, just listening! A teacher-student relationship is so imbalanced by nature, teachers really must make a conscious effort to remain receptive in order to maintain their well-being.
How about other forms of expression? Artists can be Exhalers too, but then they run out of inspiration. New ideas –from within ourselves or from others– can only emerge while we’re receptive. Artists (and I’m lumping all the fine arts together here) tend not to get as out of balanced as teachers because it’s so hard for them to continue working until they “inhale” again.
Of course, you don’t have to be one of these professions to be an Exhaler. I’m just pulling the most obvious examples. The Exhalers most at risk of harming their health are the ones making their living by expressing ideas or emotions though. If that’s your day job, you’ll have to make a conscious effort to re-fuel your energy to maintain well-being.
A Dead Give Away You’ve Got an Exhaler
When I’m doing a reading, there’s one behaviour that’s a dead give-away my client is an Exhaler, and I spot it in under a minute. As I talk, they constantly make noises like, “uh-huh,” or “ya” to let me know they understand what I’m saying, and agree with me. The irony of course is that they really don’t get what I’m saying at all. Sure, they understand my words on an intellectual level, but nothing is sinking in. Like a shallow breath, it just doesn’t go deep enough. I can be offering them the most powerful, life-altering insights they’ve ever received and they’re un-phased because nothing I’m saying is getting integrated into their being.
What to Do About It! Balancing Your Breath
Anyhow, if you’re an exhaler, what do you do about? Breath in!! And breathe deep, right down to your belly!! Breath out just as deeply, too. Ideally, your inhale and exhales will be of similar length and gusto.
Seriously, it’s about as simple as that. The lower chakras are where we integrate all of our experiences. That is, we digest everything with our lower abdomen, not just food. You can activate those chakras by taking deep, belly breaths. Not just now and then but as often as possible; bring your attention to your breath and breathe deep. Make the effect more powerful by visualizing a bright light that grows with in your abdomen as you do it, and set an intention to intake whatever form of energy your body may need.
Finally, you have to make appropriate changes in your behaviour, to make all that beautiful belly-breathing stick. So when you listen, really challenge yourself to listen with your whole being. How? Try to feel the words sinking into your very cells. Be an observer to the experience and only an observer. When you catch yourself thinking about how you’ll respond, or what you think about what’s being said, etc. just take note of the fact that you’re thinking instead of listening. Let the thoughts drop and go back to listening.
Be patient with yourself. Old habits take a while to break.
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