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By openjar, December 13, 2010 9:25 am

It blows my mind how many people know about the law of attraction, profess to wholeheartedly accept it, and yet continue to view their life as something that just “happens to them.” You can’t step into your power while pretending you’re powerless. To live consciously, and set the future course of your life to your liking, you have to see that future as genuinely being something you create.

“I just can’t get out of debt!” people might say. Or, “I’m so sick of dating these jerks! When will I ever meet a guy who’s honest?” Or, “No, no, this one had nothing to do with me. She was just being totally vicious.” And my favourite, the ever-common, “I’m tired of getting my heart broken! I don’t want to care too much and get hurt again.”

Look, the law of attraction doesn’t just apply on occasion, or when things go as we’d hoped. It applies all the time. It’s in effect every hour of every day, regardless of how that day goes. When people applaud us, it’s a reaction to the vibes we’re sending out. When they abuse us, it’s a reaction to the vibes we’re sending out. When they love us, when they misunderstand us, when they help us back on our feet it’s a reaction to the vibes we’re sending out. When our health goes downhill, when we lose our job, when our car breaks down, it’s in reaction to the vibes we’re sending out. And that’s a good thing.

The first step to mastering the law of attraction is to let it sink in that nothing you’ve ever experienced could have occurred without your participation.

When we accept the fact that we’re really, truly sitting in the driver’s seat, we can finally begin learning to drive –that is, learning how to utilize the Law of Attraction to live a deeply fulfilling life. So long as we think someone (or something) else could be driving the course of our life for us, we’re just going to keep running headlong into collisions without ever learning from them.

Of course there are plenty of times when life doesn’t appear to be following the Law of Attraction. Rather than assuming there’s exceptions to the Law, try assuming there must be subtleties to its application you don’t understand yet.  Next thing you know you’ll be looking for, and soon finding, a better understanding of how the Law of Attraction applies. I’ll address some of the apparent exceptions to the Law of Attraction in my next post, and show how there are in fact no exceptions at all.

Many teachers harp on the importance of avoiding words like ‘not,’ ‘can’t,’ ‘never,’ ‘won’t’ because they’re often used to articulate thoughts that manifest undesired experiences. The reasoning is that when we change our wording we change our thoughts. It’s true enough, but it’s also a pretty superficial shift in attitude. I’d rather encourage people to make deeper changes.

Change the way you see your role in your own life, and accept yourself as having participated in all that you’ve ever experienced. Accept that you have the ultimate say in what happens to you in the future.

Accept yourself as having participated in all you’ve ever experienced, and out of necessity you’ll have to learn to forgive yourself. Learn to forgive yourself, and you’ll automatically learn to forgive others, too.

Change the way you process your experiences, viewing them as continuous feedback on what type of energy dominates the vibes you’re putting out.

Change the way you view your emotions, using them as instant indicators of where your energy is at. When you feel irritated by someone, begin asking what that tells you about yourself rather than what that tells you about them.

Create a habit of looking at your experiences to understand your subconsciously held beliefs.

Change how you perceive cause-and-effect of daily events to include the Law of Attraction as the primary cause for everything, and life’s mysteries will reveal themselves to you one by one.

In summary, rather than trying to just “talk the talk,” challenge yourself to “walk the talk” by genuinely changing how you perceive yourself and your world. Changes in your wording will follow naturally. When you do catch yourself saying something negative, take note of the negative beliefs that must be behind the statement. With self awareness, you can address unhealthy beliefs and bring about genuine change. Suppressing or denying a negative belief by putting rosier words on top of it isn’t going to make much of a difference to your experiences.

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By openjar, May 20, 2010 11:10 pm

I was thinking about different times of my life where I’ve manifested financial abundance, or lack there of. Normally I contemplate big expenses and windfalls, but today I was thinking about why some rather ordinary months seem to be tighter than others. My thoughts meandered about, and eventually came to my dear old grandpa.

He used to say, “Look after the pennies and the nickles will look after themselves.” What he meant by that is, if you have a chance to save a few pennies, do it! Don’t be saying, “oh it’s just a few pennies, why bother?” Little expenses add up. Save a few pennies here and there and you’ve got a handful of nickles. lol. Of course, no one cares about nickles anymore. My grandpa was born in 1901 and lived through the Great Depression, so to him, a nickle was something of value. Today I think we’d say, “Look after your 5 dollar bills and the twenties will look after themselves.” But you get the point. Save a few bucks here and there and it truly adds up.

Grandpa’s saying may sound simple, perhaps naive, and certainly a little stingy in a Great-Depression-survivor kind of way. But he came to be a fairly affluent man later in life, so he must’ve been onto something.

It’s not his penny-pinching that interests me. It’s the way he let “nickles look after themselves.” There’s a degree of surrender happening here, and that’s important, because surrender is precisely the element that seems to effect my ordinary, month-to-month finances.

There’s three basic observations that I’ve made.

If I get very lazy about watching my money, and lose all track of how much is coming in vs. how much is going, I do eventually start racking up debt. Laziness and complacency do not amount to surrender. Nor do they amount to healthy finances!

If I get my act together and start tracking where my money’s going out, I get a better grip on my finances and do gradually get myself back on track. Things will at least improve initially. Over time, it seems to get harder and harder to stay on budget, though. In fact, the more I try to watch my money the more I have to struggle to stay in the black! Expenses will keep popping up each month that are beyond my control. Of course, the more I try to control things, the more energy I’m putting into my fears and harder it gets to keep my finances in check. It’s not always big expenses that hurt me, either. It can be little ones here and there. Pennies turning into nickles and fives turning into twenties, but with minus signs in front!!

The trouble is I over do things. I swing from the lazy side of the financial pendulum to the micro-manager / control freak side. And life is really hard for control freaks. It’s almost better to be lazy. In fact… as I write this, it occurs to me that when I do readings for people in serious financial duress, it’s virtually a sure-thing that I’ll find some super strong, control freak traits. I can’t honestly recall ever seeing laziness in someone with a severe financial crisis though. The more I think about it, the more certain I am that control freaks fare much worse than lazy people. All that stops the control freaks from losing fortunes is shear determination but they can brush dangerously close to it.

Anyhow, here’s where things work out, and grandpa really proves himself. Sometimes, I decide my monthly expense tally is always about the same from month to month, anyway. So why bother tallying them up each month? I lose interest in my bookkeeping initiatives, and coast along for few months without crunching any numbers. Whenever I do this, something funny happens. I gradually find more money in my bank account! Many times, I’ve added up numbers from past months to see where the money came from. Is there some bill I forgot to pay? What’s going on? What I find is that there is NO major difference between the good months and the tight months. My grocery bills are about the same. Utilities and cash withdrawals barely change. Nevertheless, when I add it all up, my expenses are lower. A few bucks here, a few bucks there… and somehow, while I was looking the other way, the twenties looked after themselves!!

There’s no magic in the spreadsheet I use for record keeping. There’s certainly no profound “Secret” behind my erratic bookkeeping habits. What really makes the difference to my bottom line (and presumably many other people’s) is surrender. To me, surrender is the sweet spot on a pendulum’s swinging path between complacency and control that we only really find with the absence of fear.

The only modification I would make to grandpa’s idiom is this, “When we let the universe (or whatever higher power(s) you like to call upon) look after the pennies, the nickles look after themselves.” But then again, perhaps my grandfather knew that, and I was just slow to catch on.